Simple, easy-to-use strategies to reach goals, get motivated, change your mindset, and improve your life.

#motivation How often are you waiting to be motivated to do something? What are you procrastinating doing today? "I just haven't been motivated to _________." This phrase spills off our lips as if motivation is a necessary component to taking action. Guess what? It's not. Sure, it makes it a lot easier, no doubt. But it also causes us to put something off over and over. The next thing you know, you've wasted a whole lot of time and maybe ended up in an even worse posi

I was part of a three-way conversation discussing how easily we can get triggered, and our moods immediately change from feeling peace and calm to intense irritation and anger. One gentleman was describing his recent experience on an airplane. He had just comfortably settled into his seat when a quite "rude and selfish" woman pushed her way past him, plopping down in the seat (not originally hers as she had changed from the row behind him) next to him. She proceeded to lis

I've always been envious of people who have a natural sense of curiosity. That's never been me. I have a more targeted sense of curiosity than possessing the overall "curiosity trait" some lucky people embody. But I decided this was a quality I really wanted to cultivate because the rewards are enormous. I've made it a priority...a habit...habitually curious. I've spent years researching and attempting to understand why people behave the way they do. The biggest challenge

Pain is an inevitable part of life. And while I would rather do without it, I must admit many things that caused me much pain also promoted much growth. But SUFFERING…now that’s something different. Suffering is extended pain. Suffering can last a long time. Suffering is a state of being. AND... suffering is a choice. I heard a spiritual teacher once say: “Suffering comes from the story you continue to tell yourself about the pain you encountered. Pain is usually a m

Looking back on my life there were events that took place where I felt I was a victim. Things happened that were beyond my control. Sometimes “bad things happen to good people”. However, what I’m talking about is a "victim mentality". This is developed when a person continuously believes that the negative things that happen to them are the result of outside forces beyond their control. It reflects a feeling of powerlessness over one’s circumstances. When my oh-so-beauti

My tagline is "Baby Steps to Big Results." There's a good reason for this. First of all, most changes happen as a process. Nature is our biggest teacher in this lesson. I'm ready for summer, but the trees still look bare to me. Yesterday I decided to check out one of the branches to see if I could find any visible sign of change. Sure enough, upon close examination, I noticed all the branches have the beginnings of little buds. If you didn't get up close and pay attent

Society today places a lot of emphasis on "doing". Being a goal-oriented person myself, I actually kinda like "doing" because it makes me feel good to accomplish things. And that statement right there is what I'm talking about with this Arrow Tip. Most people focus on the "doing" without paying any attention to who they are BEING. Doing without being leads to temporary results mostly because it depends on willpower, which requires a whole lot of energy. It's virtually

Our moods are like channels on our TVs. There are many of them and they can change as quickly and as easily as we flip between stations....

As I write this it's New Year's Eve. I've never been one for New Year's Resolutions. I think if you're going to do something....just do it. But I'm big on metaphorical ceremonies. Every year I pick a word that embodies what I want to focus on for the following year. My word for 2022.....LIFE. One of the things I try to help people do is create a new version of themselves. (See Arrow Tip #25 ) . But in order to embody a new version of you, you must die to the old versi

I used to hate this cliche......because there had been so many instances along my path where I felt I didn't have a choice. In fact, in...

#mindset Who are you currently? Who do you want to be? What do you want to have? What do you want to do? If there's an area of your...

Our experiences greatly impact our minds. When we experience something it not only affects how we think and feel, but it gives our mind data for the future. This can be a good thing but sometimes, if we're not paying attention, it can really create more problems for us. Our brains are records of the past, full of memories. Some of those memories might be good and enjoyable. That's great and remembering happy experiences is highly beneficial when it puts us into a positive