Simple, easy-to-use strategies to reach goals, get motivated, change your mindset, and improve your life.

The other day I ran across one of my old laptops. I opened it up and found a document I wanted to email to myself. The problem was,...

I'm writing today for those people who might feel like giving up. I'm writing for those who don't see how things can change. I'm...

I love the musical Hamilton. I've seen it twice. During my first attendance, I was in the nosebleed section with an obstructed view. ...

#motivation How often are you waiting to be motivated to do something? What are you procrastinating doing today? "I just haven't been motivated to _________." This phrase spills off our lips as if motivation is a necessary component to taking action. Guess what? It's not. Sure, it makes it a lot easier, no doubt. But it also causes us to put something off over and over. The next thing you know, you've wasted a whole lot of time and maybe ended up in an even worse posi

I was part of a three-way conversation discussing how easily we can get triggered, and our moods immediately change from feeling peace and calm to intense irritation and anger. One gentleman was describing his recent experience on an airplane. He had just comfortably settled into his seat when a quite "rude and selfish" woman pushed her way past him, plopping down in the seat (not originally hers as she had changed from the row behind him) next to him. She proceeded to lis

"You've just got to think positive!" How many times have we heard this phrase? While it's true that having a positive mindset certainly helps when dealing with the ups and downs of life, how many people can stay positive 24/7? I think having a "productive" mindset is not only more sustainable, but it's what initiates change, and allows us to experience life from a more "positive" perspective even when things don't feel so rosy and cheery. When I say "productive", I don't

I've always been envious of people who have a natural sense of curiosity. That's never been me. I have a more targeted sense of curiosity than possessing the overall "curiosity trait" some lucky people embody. But I decided this was a quality I really wanted to cultivate because the rewards are enormous. I've made it a priority...a habit...habitually curious. I've spent years researching and attempting to understand why people behave the way they do. The biggest challenge

It was my freshman year of high school. I was sitting in the classroom when in walks this good-looking guy in a black leather jacket. ...

Pain is an inevitable part of life. And while I would rather do without it, I must admit many things that caused me much pain also promoted much growth. But SUFFERING…now that’s something different. Suffering is extended pain. Suffering can last a long time. Suffering is a state of being. AND... suffering is a choice. I heard a spiritual teacher once say: “Suffering comes from the story you continue to tell yourself about the pain you encountered. Pain is usually a m

When going from Point A to Point B I don’t think you can get more precise than the people endeavoring to launch a rocket. Those guys...

I was watching some kids the other day compete to see who could jump the furthest. One by one they took off from their starting point,...

In the world of personal development, there’s a term that’s thrown around a lot. “Self-love”. I get it. Having it is critical. But I’ve never liked it...the term that is. Reason being…it never really resonated with me. I mean what does that actually mean anyway?? Because I’ve always felt I had a good degree of self-love. I’m a good person. I like me. But on closer inspection, I had to admit…there’ve been many times I haven’t acted in a loving way towards myself. Time

Looking back on my life there were events that took place where I felt I was a victim. Things happened that were beyond my control. Sometimes “bad things happen to good people”. However, what I’m talking about is a "victim mentality". This is developed when a person continuously believes that the negative things that happen to them are the result of outside forces beyond their control. It reflects a feeling of powerlessness over one’s circumstances. When my oh-so-beauti

My tagline is "Baby Steps to Big Results." There's a good reason for this. First of all, most changes happen as a process. Nature is our biggest teacher in this lesson. I'm ready for summer, but the trees still look bare to me. Yesterday I decided to check out one of the branches to see if I could find any visible sign of change. Sure enough, upon close examination, I noticed all the branches have the beginnings of little buds. If you didn't get up close and pay attent

Society today places a lot of emphasis on "doing". Being a goal-oriented person myself, I actually kinda like "doing" because it makes me feel good to accomplish things. And that statement right there is what I'm talking about with this Arrow Tip. Most people focus on the "doing" without paying any attention to who they are BEING. Doing without being leads to temporary results mostly because it depends on willpower, which requires a whole lot of energy. It's virtually

This Arrow Tip seems kinda weird to think about...How can we remember something that hasn't even happened (yet)? But it's a mind hack I've found that works, not only to get myself "unstuck" when I need to but also to feel better right away. The key is to have fun doing it. The only thing that exists right now is the present moment. (See Arrow Tip #38) When we remember something from the past we bring an experience that's already over and done with and "re-live" it in ou

When coaching athletes to develop mindset skills one of the biggest things I get them to do is implement what I call a "Bounce Back...

We've always been told "practice makes perfect" but I've found that focusing on PROGRESS rather than perfection is a much better mantra! ...

Many moons ago I was at one of my emotional low points. I felt anxious, scared, and incredibly wounded. As per my usual M.O. when feeling overwhelmed, I found myself in my bed, under the covers... shutting the world out, obsessively thinking about what I could do to "fix" my problem, and beating myself up for not being able to. For whatever reason on this occasion, I felt so overwhelmed and alone that I started imagining what it would feel like to have someone wrap their a